For the girls who have read every attachment theory book…
and still panic over a text.

 

For the girls who have read every attachment theory book…
and still panic over a text.

 
  • Two hours pass and he sends a text back, but you’ve already decided he wants to break up
  • You can see clearly how + why you started overthinking but still can’t help yourself in the moment
  • You do the list of “healthy” things to do for yourself but you’re still triggered af 
  • Something small happens and logical you know, “It’s not that serious” but you still feel on red alert 
  • You feel ridiculous after you spiral or react in a not-great way, but you just couldn’t help yourself

🧪 You stop your brain from turning minor things into major threats 

🧪 You start trusting a good partner vs. needing them constantly remind you that they care

🧪 You catch your anxious triggers before they hijack your behaviors 

🧪 You don’t need to process the situation from every angle to make sure things are good

🧪 You go from just understanding why you’re triggered into actually rewiring them

I remember waking up a morning after a disagreement with my boyfriend (now husband) staring at my nightstand of self help books, fighting the urge to check my texts to see if he replied, and had a huge realization that knowing I was triggered wasn’t helping me to feel any better.

I had sat on professional couches for years explaining my family history, read the "suggested books", and while they helped me to understand what was happening, none of them really helped me to behave differently when I really wanted to. 

Recently, all I see is teaching why you’re anxious, but not how to do something differently when those triggers happen. 

One of my clients got engaged, and when we were reflecting on her journey, we were remembering how she went from white knuckling her week pretending she was ok...

into being able to be fully present for the tiny moments that made their connection stronger than ever. That’s what this is for. 

You can’t think your way out of overthinking, you’ve got to practice the steps to walk out of it. 

That’s what we’re doing inside the Secure Love Lab.

1
The 90-Minute Kick-Off Intensive (1:1 with me).

Just you and me. We map your spirals, look at your actual situation, and build your personalized path for the next six months. The single most personal touch in the program.

2
The Personalized Library Path.

Not a content dump. A sequence I assigned to YOUR situation from the kick-off. So you're never guessing where to start.

3
The Weekly Pulse Private Podcast.

The exact pattern you were stuck in all week, broken down clearly. Each week I pull the cohort's biggest pattern from the weekly intake and address it in your ear. Listen on the walk. Listen at 9pm.

4
The Monthly Calibration Call. Live. Application only.

Submit your specific situation each month. I pick 3-5 patterns and address them in 10-minute mini-focus on the live call. Capped on purpose. So the depth holds.

5
The 60-Minute Q2 Check-Up Call (1:1 with me).

Mid-program audit. My eyes back on you at month three. We recalibrate the back half so you don't drift in months four and five.

6
The SLL Library.

A full and robust library plus your cohort's private podcast and calibration replays. Yours forever.

7
The 6-Month Container.

Defined start. Defined end. The structure that doesn't let you quit on yourself the first time it gets uncomfortable.

8
The Daily Practice.

Three exercises. Five to ten minutes. Observation. Sensation. Breath. The backbone of how the work actually works.

© Clare Cui 2026